Flirting 101

HOW TO FLIRT

This one is for the ladies.

How often do you find yourself getting high-fived instead of asked on dates? Or otherwise incapable of successful interactions with that special someone? Or just anyone in general?

That likely encompasses many of you. Don’t worry, your secret is safe here. Although, to be fair…(it’s probably not actually a secret.)

Flirting is more of an art form.

Practiced by most.

Perfected by few.

And dating is hard enough, even if you know how to flirt!

So in attempt to help you out, here is a list of the top 10 flirty signals to let a guy know you dig him.

Check the finger

Just make sure you do your part and check. The married ones don’t move away as soon as they are off the market. More likely than not they still have 8 years left at school.

You don’t want to waste your wiles on someone that’s already taken.

Banter

According to AskMen.com, “being able to banter when you first start talking to [someone] is one of the most important and effective ways to get [their] attention right away.”

Generally, this is something that will come naturally to any two people with chemistry.

Don’t be afraid to make a few jokes or throw around a couple light teases, but be careful not to get too abrasive or crass, because that can kill your connection.

After you have established some common ground, it makes it a little easier to move into more personal or serious topics. This will show that you can be multifaceted.

Hair Twirl

Boys, subconsciously or not, look for it.

Little details like this are just an easy way to communicate that you are attracted to him.

Have a sense of humor

It’s proven that laughter connects people. And it’s good to show that you like to have fun and you are easy to be around.

Touching

His arm, his leg, his face. Whatever.

Research also shows that if you touch a boy’s elbow 3 times, he is more likely to ask you out. Don’t ask for the credibility to back that up because you won’t find it here.

Probably something mom said once to placate me because she didn’t want to tell me that someone wasn’t asking me out because I was ugly.

Playful touching ignites that “spark” everyone talks about and shows that you’re open and comfortable around him.

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Give him space

It’s common to want to cling to that connection when you find it, but it’s easy to suffocate that budding relationship.

Just try to live your normal life, do your activities, try not to be attached to your phone just waiting for it to ring so you can answer it the moment it lights up.

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Reach out to him first sometimes

You want to show him that you want him to be reaching out to you all the time. And you want to be sure that you are showing reciprocated interest. Throw the guy a bone, so to speak. Sometimes guys aren’t sure if you are playing hard to get, or just uninterested.

Help a brother out.

Plus, the point rule, you know?

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Show your intelligence

Don’t be afraid to show off your smarts!

Provo hair school girls get a bad wrap for being vapid because they work in cosmetology. But just because you are beautiful and love to do hair, doesn’t mean you can’t also be highly intelligent.

However, if you are playing the dum dum, you’re not going to get the ring, ring.

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Compliment

Girls, it’s likely you don’t have enough hands to count all the compliments you’ve received in your life. Or maybe you only need the one hand if you just get the same ones all the time.

Either way, how often do you offer them?

Next time you get all dolled up for a date and you open the door to greet your date, rather than waiting for him to compliment how great you look, tell him how sharp he looks.

Maybe it took him 5 seconds to throw on some pants. Well, congratulate him on picking a pair. Sometimes that’s an accomplishment for people. Maybe he is wearing his sister’s shirt. Well, then you might have the same one and you love it.

The point is, he wants to feel confident as much as you.

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Remember the small stuff

Chances are, as a woman, you probably remember more than him anyways. Like, those of you who have any type of friendship or relationship, you can probably recall some off putting comment someone said to you 13 years ago.

Right?

Well forget those, and start paying attention to the small things that make him happy. If he loves Stance socks, you can surprise him with them on special occasions or just when you feel like you want to show a little more love.

Gender roles aside, if he loves grilled cheese sandwiches, make him some rad grilled cheese sandwiches. If you are a terrible cook, commission someone else to make them. You feel?

Thanks for reading!

Xoxo

PS. If anyone has any tips or questions they’d like to ask or share, feel free to leave a comment or message. You will remain anonymous unless otherwise advised

*Insert kiss face here*

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5 thoughts on “Flirting 101

  1. “However, if you are playing the dum dum, you’re not going to get the ring, ring.”

    I’ve actually found just the opposite with provo bois. Dumb cosmetologists (excuse my stereotyping) seem to be exactly their type. A girl with an opinion and the boldness to speak it is probably the least attractive thing next to a pair of crocs or those mormon mother capri/halfpants.

    And here I am, loud and opinionated as all get out, still single in the provo valley : /

    Good luck everyone

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    • Girl, I FEEL YOU.

      But do you want the boys that want those girls?

      Not that there’s anything wrong with any of them, but for me personally, I would never look for someone that was looking for someone soft spoken and not opinionated. Because I am NEITHER of those things.

      And would you believe me if I told you there was not only 1 guy out there that is looking for a girl like you, but MULTIPLE?

      Just wait for the right ones.

      They are out there.

      Thanks for your comment, and I hope you’ll be back!

      Best of luck to you as well!

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  2. Great list! Also, a big indicator for me is reciprocation. Guys find ourselves reaching out quite a bit with low success rates. So if you want to let him know you’re interested, maybe mimic some of the ways he let you know he’s interested in you. Love the posts Liv!

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