DATING IS HARD. IT’S HARDER WHEN YOU DON’T DO IT
It’s Friday night.
You’re at Sodalicious with some of your friends.
And you see a girl.
“Holy fetch,” you think (as all Utahans use the same edited vocab) “that girl is the SHIZ.”
Your buddies all give you the bro-proval, and you think about what to say to sweep her off her feet.
And nothing seems good enough. Smooth enough. You want to be like that cream cheese spread.
So you CHICKEN OUT and she leaves…never to be seen again. (Until tomorrow at the Village party. At which point she has been scooped up by some other dude.)
Gosh dang it all to heck.
You missed out on that one.
And what you didn’t know, is that she saw you at Sodalicious. She thought you were SO cute, and she lingered long after her Dirty Dr Pepper was finished, hoping that you would come up and say hi.
Unfortunately, she figured you weren’t interested, and she went home.
And then you both missed your opportunity.
Or some variation of that story.
Perhaps because you yourself, are perhaps at times, a chicken. It happens!
Even to the best, most bold, and fantastically confident.
Some people just scare the living daylights out of you.
I would know. People usually run away from me.
So how do you man up and just go for it?
Well, one important thing to keep in mind first: everyone is scared.
Rejection, heartbreak, bad dates, adventures, new loves, kisses, marriage. FRICK YEAH. All of the above are likely to happen if you just suck it up and go for it every once in a while.
And they all make you stronger.
You just have to keep in mind that the other person may be as afraid of talking to you, as you are of talking to them. We are all just humans trying to make it.
So be cool and just let conversation flow naturally. You don’t need a pick up line to strike up a conversation. You just need basic people skills.
Hi. How are you? What’s your name? I’m Mr Blockinfeffer. Are you going to school? Blah blah blah.
Turns out in Utah, there’s like a list of questions everyone asks each other, that you can either consult, or you can do your own thing and wing it. But they are as follows:
- Where do you go to school?
- Where are you from?
- What’s your major?
- Where did you serve your mission?
- How many kids are in your family?
- What do you like to do for fun?
- Are you working?
- What kind of food (music, movies, etc) do you like?
- What brought you to Utah?
- What is your net worth?
JK about that last one.
Unless you’re into that kind of thing.
I’m not here to judge.
So, you have a list to reference, or you have your own brilliant, creative mind to think of things on your own! (Which I would recommend as a way to set you apart from the typical crowd.)
So, ask the girl out.
Go talk to the cute guy at work.
No one can control your life but you, so put on your big boy (girl) pants, and go do something about it.
It’s just your exaltation.
PS. If you have found tricks that work for you, please share! It’s kind of a learning curve here, and we are all just trying to figure it out. Drop a comment below or shoot us an email.
You know you want to see it in writing.