No, Thank You

DATING IS ALWAYS A TWO WAY STREET…RIGHT?

Good evening Provo Fam,

Have you ever been out with someone, and known that you weren’t interested, but realized that what you want doesn’t actually matter?

One summer, upon attending a true Provo YSA classic (movie night,) Mia met Cameron. Much to the dismay of those watching the movie, Mia and Cameron exchanged pleasantries and chit chatted. So as per usual, once time came to go home, Cameron asks Mia for her number and a date.

They go out, but Mia decides towards the end of the night that Cameron probably isn’t the guy for her. Mostly because the does parkour, and she mercilessly mocks such a derpy hobby…NO I’M JOKING, they had some rudimentary theological/ideology differences (apparently that’s a big deal in Provo. Eternal progression and whatnot,) so I guess that’s her call. However, after that first date, he persistently called and texted her that next day to tell her how much he liked her. So she tried to let him down easy by letting him know that he seems v cool, but she thinks they are probably suited better to just be friends.

And that seemed like it was the end of it. Mostly because he didn’t contact her again from him after she said that. For about 2 years.

Then, out of the blue, she receives a text, and the following conversation ensues:

It seems like telling Cameron that she was not interested or the two years that passed without sight or word, did not effect whether or not he was interested…or whether or not he should keep dating her to see if things would go somewhere, despite the fact that she was already sure that she was not interested, and that she was not going to date him.

Or another instance, where Kayla had been on a few dates with a guy, but told him they should stop seeing each other over Christmas break…and he thinks that “not see each other anymore,” means, “keep seeing each other.”

Or Maddie, who had informed her friend before that he was a sweetheart, but that she was dating someone else, and she didn’t really feel that way about him, but he thought he’d give it another go anyways:

I mean, kudos for persistence, but what is the interest in someone that isn’t interested in you?

There have been success stories about unlikely couples, where one person refused to give up and stop pursuing the other person, and they ended up getting married. Like Just Friends. So maybe it’s worth it if you one day become Ryan Reynolds.

But then you have stories like Gone With the Wind (probably the majority of you haven’t seen it, so ok) where Rhett Butler asks Scarlet to marry him multiple times before she says yes, and then they have a terrible marriage and break up.

Or Christopher and Lorelei…where those Gilmore Girls fans at?

So…is it worth it if it could turn out, or wouldn’t you rather date someone who thinks you’re rad right from the beginning and wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them.

Thoughts?

XOXO,
TPC

PS. Don’t forget to share your own stories via email! Or leave them in a comment. Visual aids always help. With your help, I know we can make Provo Dating Great Again!

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